Sex&Money
A three-hour transformational game for one to six players. Two currencies are in play — dollars and hearts — and the board asks the same question in both languages: what have you forbidden yourself, and what is it costing you.
One circle, two hemispheres, six sectors.
Money is green, desire is red, and a gold infinity mark sits where they meet. A player enters with two rolls of the die: the first decides the hemisphere, the second the sector. Nobody chooses where they start — that is the point.
Printed on fabric or banner stock. Each set is printed to order in the buyer's language.
| Money | Desire |
|---|---|
| Energy of money | Ecstasy of the body |
| Shadows of the wallet | Shadows of the bed |
| Mirrors of money | Mirrors of the bedroom |
A player may work a sector twice, then moves clockwise to the next free one. The Mirror sectors are entered last, and the game finishes only after a player has come out of them. Anyone who never reaches the mirrors has been told something useful: the basic energies still need the work.
Dollars buy things. Hearts are harder to earn.
Everyone starts with 100 dollars and 20 hearts — enough to survive about three honest mistakes. A heart sells for ten dollars, and costs twenty to buy back. Buying a state is always dearer than creating one, and the exchange rate says so out loud.
| Sector | Hearts, rolls 1–6 | Dollars, rolls 1–6 |
|---|---|---|
| Ecstasy of the body · Energy of money | 1 · 3 · 5 · 10 · 20 · 50 | 1 · 5 · 10 · 20 · 50 · 100 |
| Shadows of the bed · Shadows of the wallet | 2 · 3 · 5 · 15 · 25 · 60 | 5 · 10 · 20 · 40 · 100 · 150 |
| Mirrors of the bedroom · Mirrors of money | 3 · 5 · 8 · 18 · 30 · 70 | 10 · 15 · 25 · 50 · 120 · 180 |
The deeper the sector, the larger the payout — and the larger the fine. The mirrors pay best because they cost the most to enter.
A die decides what was lived and what was only understood.
This is the rule the whole game rests on. After every practice the player rolls once more: two, four or six — it was honestly lived in the body, and the bank pays. One, three or five — it stayed theory, and the player pays for the lesson. Nobody argues with a die, which is why insight arrives without an argument.
- The bank Exchanges currencies on any of your turns, pays out on a yes and collects on a no.
- Credit: Trust in Yourself Go negative and the bank covers you — after which every yes is split with it until the debt clears. Players may also lend to each other, on whatever terms they can negotiate out loud.
- Deposit: Scaling From 200 dollars or 100 hearts, frozen for two turns and doubled on the third. Land on a Shadows sector while it is frozen and half of it burns.
- The shared Treasury A fifth of every fine goes in. A yes rolled as a double takes the jackpot; if nobody rolls one, the Treasury carries over to the next game — which is the reason players come back to a second table.
- The Investments deck A gold asset paying 20 dollars and 5 hearts a turn for 150 and 30. A venture start-up that doubles your capital or halves it. Property that earns dollars and costs hearts. A personal brand that halves your fines in the shadows.
- The finish Coming out of the Mirror sectors ends the game — not running out of money, and not running out of time.
Eight decks of thirty, one of forty.
Two of them are not shown publicly and never will be. They hold bodily practices that belong in a closed room with a facilitator present, not on a website — and that restriction is part of the method, not a marketing device.
Body
Bodily practices. Facilitator's hands only.
Money
Practices done with money, in the room, in front of witnesses.
Fears · Sex
The second deck that stays closed.
Fears · Money
What you avoid counting, checking, asking for or saying out loud.
Mirrors · Sex
A situation from one hemisphere, its exact twin in the other, and the question between them.
Mirrors · Money
The same move in reverse: money first, desire underneath.
Investments
Assets that pay out every turn, and the price of holding them.
The men's deck
The same board, asked in a language that works at a men's or mixed table.
Forty more
The ninth deck, forty cards, for tables that go longer.
Draw one and answer it honestly.
Every mirror card takes a situation from one hemisphere and asks for its exact equivalent in the other. It is the simplest mechanism in the game and the one that does the most work — because an answer that is easy on one side is almost never easy on both.
These fifteen are rewritten for the web from the Ukrainian originals. At a real table there are sixty of them, and a facilitator asking the follow-up.
Where does caution cost you money — and where does hurry cost you pleasure?
Mirrors of the bedroomThree hours, one arc, one to six players.
The facilitator does not improvise — they are part of the method. Six is the comfortable ceiling on players rather than a rule: with two or three at the table every turn is worked through more deeply, and a one-to-one session turns the whole board into a single frank conversation.
The request
Each player says out loud what they came for. Two rolls put them into their first sector, and the table agrees on confidentiality before a single card is drawn.
The practices
Cards are drawn, practices are done, and the die decides who pays. Credit is taken, deposits are opened, assets are bought — and every transaction is a statement about what the player believes they deserve.
The mirrors
The last stretch asks every question about desire again in the language of money. Then the table talks, and that conversation is where the value lands.
One evening, and the price she names afterwards.
A practitioner who has not raised her rate in nine months sits down at the board. Nothing is explained to camera and nobody makes a claim — you see the table, the cards, the laughter, and the message she sends when it is over.
Two minutes twenty. Filmed at a staged session, with the consent of everyone in frame — real sessions are never recorded. There is no dialogue: the story is carried by the titles and by three screens of a phone.
Three ways to run it online.
None of them is a plan for later: all three have been played through in real sessions, and all three come with the set. Which one you reach for depends on the evening — what your players are holding in their hands, and how much of the game you want to carry yourself.
- Miro, one board The whole game on a single table: the field, the nine decks, the banknotes in both currencies and a working area for every player. The lightest of the three — a player with nothing but a phone can still take part.
- Miro, two boards Yours and theirs, kept apart. You hold the decks and the counting on your own board; the player sees their field, their cards and their money, and nothing else. The newer of the two layouts.
- The online game on this site The full version. The console keeps the rules, the movement and the arithmetic; every player opens their own screen in their own language and rolls the dice and draws the cards themselves. The first year comes with the set.
For a facilitator all three change the same arithmetic. A physical table needs people who can reach the same room on the same evening; online, a table can be assembled from several countries, or a single client can book three private hours from anywhere.
The single Miro table mid-session, in Ukrainian: player areas on the left, the decks around the field, the worksheets below it.
Who sits down, and what they leave with.
Someone whose income has stalled
Fully booked, everything working as it should, and no growth for the third year running. The game shows why.
Someone who cannot name a price
The sentence I don't charge much has a source, and it is rarely commercial.
Someone who has everything and wants nothing
The mirrors are unkind to anyone afraid to step out of their comfort zone.
A practitioner scouting the method
As a rule, facilitators buy the game after playing it themselves. It is worth playing one before you buy.
Nothing is undressed and nothing is touched. Players talk, roll, pay and collect. The game works because the questions are designed and their order is not: nobody can guess in advance what will land on them, and nobody can claim they were singled out.